How much does a Relationship Matter?
Published by Ashish Tiwari,Founder of Management Co & Coach on 2013-04-29 04:16:15
You Cannot Achieve Anything Alone
For everything you want to achieve in life – whether it's establishing a new business, earning more money or finding lifelong love – there will be other people deciding whether you will achieve it or contributing to your cause. Everything you do can only be accomplished through and with other people. To achieve success you must communicate effectively, build relationships, establish rapport, influence and lead people, make friends, build trust, and demonstrate other people skills.
Your happiness can grow endlessly if you adopt the proper relationship mind-set and learn how to achieve more with people. Learning to connect fast with your customers, colleagues, bosses, employees, and even total strangers by taking full advantage of your body, your mind, your voice, and above all your imagination will give you a significant competitive edge. It will help you maximize the potential in every relationship, be it personal, business-related, or social.
Building Relationships – the Key to Your Personal and Business Success
Your success in every area of life and business are based largely on the quality and quantity of relationships that you can initiate and develop over time.
Giving and Receiving – An Ongoing Balancing Act
Every interpersonal relationship is built on this fact of life. He who always gives acts against this principle just as much as he who only takes. Life doesn't go very well when you fail to strike a healthy balance between the two. Remind yourselves of love and translate the word "love" into action, because that is the basis of harmonic relationships and gracious giving and receiving. When giving and receiving are in proper balance you have time both to listen and to tell, to help others and to receive help, to be there for people in need and to ask people for something.
"Think once before you give, twice before you take but a thousand times before you ask for something." – Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach
Get Interested in People
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you," advised Dale Carnegie.
Resolve to focus your energy on helping others feel valued and appreciated. Show your appreciation with a thank-you, or a smile. Call up someone you haven't spoken to in a while, just to catch up on how they are. If you have children, give one child at a time your full attention for an afternoon. Write a note of appreciation to someone who is important to you.
Your Most Important Relationship
Your relationship with yourself is your closest and most important relationship. What kind of relationship with yourself have you chosen – a judging, a coaching, a fearful, or a loving one? "Ask yourself in meditation what kind of friendship you want to nurture with your own self – do you want an inner friend who constantly judges you and denies you love, or do you want an inner friend who accepts you just as you are?".
Relationship Marketing and Selling
"Anyone who views a sale as a transaction is going to be toast down the line. Selling is not about peddling a product. It's about wrapping that product in a service – and selling both the product and the service as an experience. This approach to selling helps create a vital element in the process: a relationship," says Marilyn Carlson, CEO Carlson Companies
a. Confucius about relationships
§ Virtue is not left to stand alone. He who practices it will have neighbors. Forget injuries, never forget kindnesses. Respect yourself and others will respect you. When anger rises, think of the consequences. Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire. It is more shameful to distrust our friends than to be deceived by them. It is not the failure of others to appreciate your abilities that should trouble you, but rather your failure to appreciate theirs. Never give a sword to a man who can't dance.
§ Tsze-Kung asked, saying, 'Is there one word which may serve as a rule of practice for all one's life?" The Master said, "Is not Reciprocity such a word? What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others."
§ Recompense injury with justice, and recompense kindness with kindness. Have no friends not equal to yourself. It is only the benevolent man who is capable of liking or disliking other men.
§ A youth is to be regarded with respect. How do you know that his future will not be equal to our present?
b. 14 ways to nourish conflicts
1. Not Listening
If you love conflict in your life, don't listen to anyone. Especially if someone is already hot under the collar, any sign of not listening will turn up the heat.
The Other 13 Ways To Nourish Conflict
Other ways to nurture and feed hostility include:
2. A hostile reaction
5. Judgments or assumptions
7. Unrealistic expectations
10. Harsh words
12. A "How is that my problem?" attitude
13. Minimizing a problem
14. Judging a reaction